Of Socialization,Dr’s, and Homeschoolers
Posted by twisteddomesticgoddess
I know I know…it’s the age long argument. If you homeschool your kids how will they…well ya know…make friends? What will happen to their socialization skills? Will they develop properly?
Last Friday I had to take Kenna to the Dr for a check up and also to have one of her old war injuries checked out. A couple years ago she did SOMETHING to her foot while running up and down a skateboard ramp barefoot,during a homeschool group get together.(OK folks let’s ignore the irony of that here for just two seconds shall we.)
Anyways it’s a new Dr for us not so much for B’s girls. The Dr is also friends with the same aunt we have just lived with at the frat house…so she knows our situation. She sat there and asked Kenna about how she hurt her foot,Kenna told her,including the homeschool group part. The Dr then as asked how she liked her new school.To which Kenna looked at her oddly and said,”umm we homeschool.”
Again let’s forget that we’re here for a physical check up…you know questions about puberty,does anything else hurt,how tall are we now?
So the Dr then asked her promptly about whether or not she was getting out of the house, and if she had any other homeschooled friends and how we must be part of a group. Kenna was very respectful in her answers,but you could even see the annoyance creep across her face as she answered that yes she gets out of the house,her homeschooled friends all lived a pretty good distance,and right now we don’t belong to a group.
The Dr then asked her again if she had any other homeschooled friends…because you know if you’re homeschooled you must only be friends with other homeschoolers? Kenna answered the question again and then told her how she had made friends with the neighborhood kids,especially our next door neighbor.
The Dr ignored how Kenna went on about her newly acquired best friend,who the two of them are inseparable,and then asked HER why she thought she didn’t have many other homeschool friends or why we were not part of a group.
I wanted to step up here,but I stayed in the background as Kenna sighed and answered,
“I have friends just all of them are not homeschooled most are public, and we’re not part of a group yet because we just moved.”
I had to hide a snicker because out of all 6 of my kiddos she is the one that I can barely keep at home because she’s so busy running around with her best friend. The other kids as wel,l are out the door and playing with all the other neighborhood kids as soon as the other kids are home from school and done with their homework.
In fact BECAUSE we homeschool my kids have to wait patiently for the other kids to be done with their homework to play,as my kids are usually done with school about 1 in the afternoon.
We haven’t joined a homeschool group yet because it’s so close to the end of the year and most of the groups cost money per school year,so I’m not throwing away money for a month left of meetings till next year.
It’s just another preconceived notion that homeschoolers will have no social skills because they’re kept home ALL THE TIME. I felt it odd that the Dr spent more time focusing on that then on why we were there in the first place,her foot,that hurts so bad that she can barely walk on it at times. Ummm so if she can’t walk on her foot…she can’t hang out with friends.(More irony here people.)
I kept my mouth shut most of the appointment,to prove a point. I let my daughter do the talking which she did quite well. It is very apparent that Kenna is not lacking in social skills,and she makes friends quite easily.
I have to say I was quite dissapointed with the DR as she was more concerned about her social skills then her physical. I understand that the role of a pediatrician has evolved from what it once was,however we were there for a physical concern,not a social one.
The good news is the Dr then finally remember to order xrays for Kenna and after the weekend and finally calling on Tuesday I got the results. There are no fractures. So now I guess it’s off to a specialist to see what is wrong with Kenna’s foot.
The bad news,neither me or Kenna are terribly over impressed with this doctor.
About twisteddomesticgoddessI'm the momma/step momma/ teacher/head cook/ top organizer/ supplier of milk and baby kisses here at Casa La Crazy. Life with 7 kids is rarely dull and usually exciting. Add in 3 cats and one fun loving boyfriend and life is pretty adventurous!Come on in sit down and please bring some extra coffee!
Posted on May 16, 2012, in homeschool, Homeschooling and tagged homeschool families, homeschool kids, homeschool stereotypes, pediatritions, public school kids, socialization. Bookmark the permalink. 9 Comments.